Actual data about what women want in bed is lacking, and I am but one woman, laden with bias. I’m writing about the theory of being Good At Sex (see Pt 1: Starve Her Brain), so I figure if I’m going to be giving advice, I at least want to verify that my advice aligns with the concrete evidence. So I decided to do a survey to map out the landscape of what women want and the kinds of variance you should actually care about

Other posts in the series:

Pt 1: Starve Her Brain

Pt 2: Women's Sexual Subtypes

Pt 3: Men Are Werewolves

Pt 4: The Marketplace of Sex Acts

Pt 5: Sex as a Status Game

Pt 6: Misjudging What Women Want

And, more importantly, what elements of things women like in bed are most predictive of other things they’ll like in bed?

So I asked ~450 women with a bodycount of 5+ to rate how much they liked ~50 different things men do during sex.

The items were things like:

• During sex, a guy's penis isn't cooperating, but he tries hard anyway, attempting to insert a half-soft dick
• During sex, he is decisive and does things, like positions or sex acts, without asking, simply maneuvers you into what he wants to do
• During sex, in missionary style he positions your legs high up, above his shoulders
• During sex, the guy is more aware and calculating (as opposed to primal or 'losing himself')
• He inserts his tongue into your ear
• the guy ejaculates after 3-4 minutes of penetration
• Your orgasm is very important to him
• During sex, he explicitly asks for consent before each new sexual act